Today was my first day at work as R and, all in all, the experience was sort of surreal. It didn’t help that I had a bad time getting to sleep last night (though I slept fine once I was asleep) and I had a lot of stuff to get through today (including fighting with the Internet at the office for two hours).
Basically, I think it was the experience of having something that’s been so private and so personal for my entire life suddenly become something that’s not only very public but (fortunately) not really a big deal to the people around me. That is, they’re supportive and they care because it’s important to me, but don’t care because it’s ‘weird’ or anything.
I’m also aware that it wasn’t really suddenly, since I’ve been out to most of these people for months and going by R today was the result of a gradual process and conversation. But still…it felt pretty damn sudden.
I mean, shit…I’m living full time now. I will now be spending more of my time interacting with the world as R than not!
Aaaand now I’ve gotten myself in a panic because I hadn’t thought about things in those terms before. Ah, good…
I should go play some Rock Band 2 that I just bought! Rock on!
-R
I’m going into work as R tomorrow! Like, at my job! What the hell am I doing?!
I’m mostly sure it’ll be a good experience, but I’m still having a little bit of panic about it…
-R
Coming out to my highschool class ended up going pretty well. The board member liaison and I hashed out language for the email and letter going to parents, which included (basically) the following bathroom language:
We are sure some of you are curious about the restrooms facilities at our building, and we would like to reassure you that there are both public and private restrooms available.
Basically, this was a compromise to not explicitly indicate that I’d be using a private bathroom (I won’t be) but to let parents think that if they want, and let them tell their kids to use the private bathroom if need be. I still didn’t like it, but was willing to agree to it in the interest of diplomacy and compromise.
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Unfortunately, it’s of stresses, not of how I judge the children I’ve been spying on all year long. (A subject for another post!)
- Transitioning at my full-time job, because I still need to talk to my occasionally-less-than-sane bosses (who I’m out to, but who I doubt have thought about the ramifications of my being trans…)
- Transitioning at my part-time job, because even though I’ve been there for a million years (first as a student, now as a teacher) and the staff and artistic director are being crazy-supportive, their board of directors is being somewhat weird. I think it’s out of trying to protect everyone involved – me, the rest of the staff, the students, their parents, and the organization as a whole – but meeting being told they met with a labor lawyer still doesn’t make me feel all warm and fuzzy…
- How all of the transitioning stuff affects G and I. This is stressing me less than it had been, since we’re talking about things now, rather than always Talking about Things.
- G and my relationship, having nothing to do with transitioning – she’s working on a show right now and we haven’t had much time together. Also better than it has been, but I’m still ready for her show to be done.
- Stress at work having nothing to do with transitioning, but due to my (again) occasionally-less-than-sane bosses and, among other things, the new website that was supposed to launch yesterday and did not.
- Dealing with the theatre company some friends and I started last year and trying to figure out A) what I can contribute (currently I’m not contributing much) and B) what I need to get out of it (currently I’m not getting much out of it either)
Phew! No wonder I’ve been stressed!
-R
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I’ve been thinking about transitioning at work. I’m out to everyone where I work, but the situation is made slightly more complicated because I work full time in one office which is down the hall from the office running the organization where I teach part time, both of which are in a building filled with other offices of people I’m on a first-name basis with.
I’ve been talking with the teacher I’m assisting at the Workshop, SB, about coming out to our high school class, which we both think will be smooth because they’re pretty awesome. As part of that process, I talked with the artistic director of the Workshop for a while today, JG, and she basically said, “We support you 100%, so lets figure out the best/smoothest way to do this.”
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Sorry for the lack of posts lately, and for the gaps between posts. I’ve just felt swamped, with things related to work (someone left so we have a new hire, and my boss is yet again being somewhat unreasonable about my taking time off), my personal life (G was gone this week), my artistic life (trying to keep working hard on the mentorship piece – more on that soon), and transitioning (went to ‘deposit’ yesterday and got one viable sample, which means I need to go back because each sample is good for one attempted at insemination…was hoping to get two or three, which isn’t uncommon, but the hormones have been busy busy busy, I guess – more on that soon, too).
So yes. I have not forgotten about you, faithful readers (such that you are) and I have a couple of posts in the pipeline that I hope to get up soon.
-R
I recently came out to the teachers, the board, and my highschool student’s parents at the Workshop and the board and teachers at my full-time job. Here are some of the responses I’ve received…
From a parent who, honestly, I was worried would be a problem:
Please forward to R:
You have our support and and respect and we wish you well on your journey. You are a very brave person and we thank you for all you have taught our children about theater and about life. We teach our children to embrace everyone and to always be true to theirselves. Have a great holiday season. Sending you tons of support….
The X Family
From a fellow teacher:
Rock on, R!
I am honored to know you, R! You are the first person of my acquaintance to transition, and I am in awe of the courage and commitment to self your transitioning represents.
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