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By Rebecca, December 14, 2010 12:13 pm

EDIT 12/18/2010: Jamie, the author of the link provided in the below-quoted comment,  has responded in the comments, clarifying a few things. It looks like I misunderstood her position, and I apologize for misrepresenting what she said. Everything else I said, about derailing a conversation, still holds true; I think the original comment that prompted this post was off topic.

Chapter I: In Which A Question Is Asked

One of the comments on This chick with a dick is exhausted caught my attention, to the point where I removed the comment from the thread (something I rarely do). However, I do want to respond to the comment, and explain why I removed it from the original post. Here’s the comment in question:

DISCLAIMER:  This is an honest question, NOT a ‘snarky’ remark.  There is absolutely no disrespect intended.

I am a relative new comer to “T-Land” and/or the world of the transgender.  I have some opinions but these are based from living in the main stream as a “privileged white woman”.

Nevertheless, I do understand your discomfort at the way you feel you were “dissed” by your “friends”.  So…This is my question?  ”Does the incident described in the following link describe you?  Does it describe a “gender queer”?  Does it describe a “gay/homosexual transgender”?

http://silverhalidedreams.blogspot.com/2010/12/deep-waters.html

Thank you in advance for considering and thoughtfully answering these questions.

I wanted to open up the discussion to a larger audience, which is why I’m responding in this public fashion. I don’t want this response to become an attack, and will remove any comments that seem tilted that way. Skip down to Chapter IV if you actually want to get to my response…

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By Rebecca, July 21, 2009 10:23 am

Name change went well, and I’ll post a much expanded retelling later.

For now, I wanted to turn once again to comments that are barely questionable as trolling.  That is, comments that are almost certainly posted just to be obnoxious, but there’s the slimmest sliver of a chance the person honestly thinks that way and isn’t intending to be inflammatory. This latest comment was posted to in reference to Misogyny and the Male Gaze:

What I love about trans is this:  They were sensitive and easily hurt to begin with, but now they feel they have a reason.  The dude’s always bothered you because he doesn’t think like you, but now the way he thinks *directly* deals with you, or so you think.

Get over it.  Yes, you are “a pair of tits with a dick”, and lots of people are going to see it that way.  Is that cool and fair and right? No.  But how many minds are you changing by whining about it?  Whining implies that you have no balls.

I mean, cry all you want, but you had your chance, still have your chance to be the man you were born as, so I think the crying is a little weird, forced and irrelevant at this point.

How delightful!

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