Comments for The Thang Blog http://fridaythang.com/blog One 20-something trans woman's free associations on gender, politics, geekery, and more Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:48:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Full Disclosure by Rebecca http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/06/full-disclosure/comment-page-1/#comment-58946 Rebecca Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:48:56 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3341#comment-58946 Absolutely. I've felt an awkward desire to straddle being an ally or supportive member of the trans community, and also wanting to control how post-show interactions play out. But what you're saying is spot on. Absolutely. I’ve felt an awkward desire to straddle being an ally or supportive member of the trans community, and also wanting to control how post-show interactions play out. But what you’re saying is spot on.

]]> Comment on Full Disclosure by Juliana http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/06/full-disclosure/comment-page-1/#comment-58933 Juliana Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:04:15 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3341#comment-58933 I don't know if this is helpful, but there's definitely something about consent here... The members of the audience are consenting to what you're disclosing by attending your performance. You weren't given the opportunity to consent to them telling you inappropriately personal things. And as Mym said, it sounds like they want to talk to someone-- suggesting that they look for a therapist or support group seems like a respectful and helpful (not that you're obligated to help them-- that's not what you signed on for. You signed on for performing!) response. I don’t know if this is helpful, but there’s definitely something about consent here… The members of the audience are consenting to what you’re disclosing by attending your performance. You weren’t given the opportunity to consent to them telling you inappropriately personal things. And as Mym said, it sounds like they want to talk to someone– suggesting that they look for a therapist or support group seems like a respectful and helpful (not that you’re obligated to help them– that’s not what you signed on for. You signed on for performing!) response.

]]> Comment on Full Disclosure by Rebecca http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/06/full-disclosure/comment-page-1/#comment-58809 Rebecca Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:41:18 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3341#comment-58809 That is a wonderful and respectful response, and I will absolutely use it the next time something like this happens. That is a wonderful and respectful response, and I will absolutely use it the next time something like this happens.

]]> Comment on Full Disclosure by Mym http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/06/full-disclosure/comment-page-1/#comment-58807 Mym Mon, 06 Feb 2012 18:31:33 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3341#comment-58807 "have you talked to a therapist?" maybe with a few of L's cards to back it up. clearly they wanted to talk to *someone*, it's just not your job to be that someone - i'd try to steer them towards someone whose job it is. “have you talked to a therapist?” maybe with a few of L’s cards to back it up. clearly they wanted to talk to *someone*, it’s just not your job to be that someone – i’d try to steer them towards someone whose job it is.

]]> Comment on Cut it open. Push it up. by r. http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/02/cut-it-open-push-it-up/comment-page-1/#comment-58777 r. Mon, 06 Feb 2012 09:43:55 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3335#comment-58777 <i>Real discovery did not happen until I was post-op.</i> Oh yeah. This. Real discovery did not happen until I was post-op.

Oh yeah. This.

]]> Comment on Cut it open. Push it up. by Ariel http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/02/cut-it-open-push-it-up/comment-page-1/#comment-58532 Ariel Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:48:19 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3335#comment-58532 No advice really. They all speak English, although a little French never hurts. My surgical result was excellent, including sensation. The recovery house next door to the hospital is wonderful -- 24-hour nursing care for 9 days after surgery! And pretty good food. No advice really. They all speak English, although a little French never hurts. My surgical result was excellent, including sensation. The recovery house next door to the hospital is wonderful — 24-hour nursing care for 9 days after surgery! And pretty good food.

]]> Comment on Cut it open. Push it up. by Rebecca http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/02/cut-it-open-push-it-up/comment-page-1/#comment-58525 Rebecca Sat, 04 Feb 2012 01:20:50 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3335#comment-58525 Thanks. I'm trying to schedule a consult with him. Any thoughts or advice? Thanks. I’m trying to schedule a consult with him. Any thoughts or advice?

]]> Comment on Cut it open. Push it up. by Ariel http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/02/cut-it-open-push-it-up/comment-page-1/#comment-58519 Ariel Sat, 04 Feb 2012 00:24:04 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3335#comment-58519 No, you haven't asked before. :) I went to Pierre Brassard in Montreal. No, you haven’t asked before. :) I went to Pierre Brassard in Montreal.

]]> Comment on Cut it open. Push it up. by Rebecca http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/02/cut-it-open-push-it-up/comment-page-1/#comment-58499 Rebecca Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:14:17 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3335#comment-58499 Thanks a ton for sharing your experiences. What you're saying makes a lot of sense. Can I ask what surgeon you used? (If I've asked in the past and forgotten, please accept my apologies!) Thanks a ton for sharing your experiences. What you’re saying makes a lot of sense. Can I ask what surgeon you used? (If I’ve asked in the past and forgotten, please accept my apologies!)

]]> Comment on Cut it open. Push it up. by Mym http://fridaythang.com/blog/2012/02/02/cut-it-open-push-it-up/comment-page-1/#comment-58432 Mym Fri, 03 Feb 2012 07:05:18 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=3335#comment-58432 i'm asexual; i don't actually use my current plumbing, and were i to get it remodeled, i'm not sure i'd use it then (i suspect i will go from actively disliking sex to apathetic)... but i still want it, so badly. even though i don't actually care about sex, what i have right now is just so _wrong_, and it only stands out more since going off of T and the rest of my body finally starting to fit, except for that one stubborn hanger-on that won't get with the program. i’m asexual; i don’t actually use my current plumbing, and were i to get it remodeled, i’m not sure i’d use it then (i suspect i will go from actively disliking sex to apathetic)… but i still want it, so badly. even though i don’t actually care about sex, what i have right now is just so _wrong_, and it only stands out more since going off of T and the rest of my body finally starting to fit, except for that one stubborn hanger-on that won’t get with the program.

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