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Google ads and SEX!
By Rebecca, April 20, 2011 3:32 pm
I use (well, used) Google Adwords on this site to bring in minuscule amounts of revenue. I’ve been thinking about ditching ‘em for a while, simply cuz they weren’t paying all that much, when I got an email from Google saying my account had been disabled on Fridaythang.com. Specifically:
Hello,
During a recent review of your account we found that you are currently
displaying Google ads in a manner that is not compliant with our program
policies
(https://www.google.com/support/adsense/bin/answer.py?answer=48182&stc=aspe-1pp-en).————————————————–
EXAMPLE PAGE:
http://fridaythang.com/blog/2010/12/22/review-amante-remoted-controlled-vibrator/Please note that this URL is an example and that the same violations may
exist on other pages of this website or other sites in your network.VIOLATION(S) FOUND:
ADULT/SEXUAL AIDS and FETISHES: As stated in our program policies, AdSense
publishers are not permitted to place Google ads on pages with adult or
mature content. This includes any content that is sexual in intent or may
not be considered family-safe, such as sexual aids, devices and fetishes.
More information about this policy can be found in our help center
(https://www.google.com/adsense/support/bin/answer.py?hl=en&answer=105957).
I’m in no way arguing the terms violation (although, ironically, Google’s help page isn’t working well in Chrome) I’m more annoyed that the policy exists at all.
Review: Bum Buddies ‘Tease My Tush’
By Rebecca, March 23, 2011 9:56 pm
Yes, the packaging is kinda stupid.
My last two sex toy reviews were, alas, of sub-par products. Too expensive, too loud, too battery-eating, too ridiculous. But at last, with the Bum Buddies Tease My Tush (hereafter referred to as the BB) I think we have a winner!
I gotta say, I was skeptical when the BB arrived at my doorstep. The name, the packaging, the color – none filled me with a sense of confidence. (Not that “confidence” is what a sex toy should fill you with, ifyouknowwhatimean.) But the MSRP, $16-18, isn’t too bad and – unlike some other toys I’ve tested – the front and back oft he packaging note that it’s made of silicone, is phthalate free, can be cleaned with soap and water and/or boiled and/or placed on the top rack of the dishwasher. (My roommates have yet to let me do that last one…)
So while the color and packaging were kinda silly, the actual information on the packaging was reassuring. Imagine that! And the package was easy to open!
The BB feels nice and silicone-y to the touch. You can see the small manufacturing seam running down the middle if you look, but it seems to be pretty well made and I wasn’t worried about it falling apart. Honestly, I was more worried about not feeling a thing, or having it slip out right away. But, thinking happy thoughts, I lubed up and got to work.
Finding other voices
By Rebecca, March 22, 2011 8:55 pm
One of the many fabulous people I met in DC was Sadie, who writes over at The Distant Panic. We were chatting for a bit today online, and I was asking Sadie about her experience in porn. Specifically, I’ve thought a lot about how my experience in circus has made me more aware of how awesome a comfort in reclaiming and displaying one’s body can be. That has led me to seriously consider taking burlesque classes, for similar reasons of personal/physical empowerment[1]. I was also talking with her about a recent hookup with another trans woman, my first such experience[2]. She directed me to two of her posts, “The Best of Both Worlds”: My Submission to Fucking Trans Women #1 and Sex work is real work. Even if it *is* exploitation. Both are worth a serious read, I’d say for everyone but particularly for anyone who has felt society says their body isn’t (and shouldn’t be!) sexy.
[1] Burlesque classes are definitely something I want to do as soon as I have the time/money, I promise. No, really, this isn’t an excuse! I’m going to take the classes!
[2] I’m not (yet?) up for talking about that on this blog, beyond the fact that it happened with lots of enthusiastic consent, is not a long-term relationship, and was lots of fun. Questions about that single sentence of this entire post will not be appreciated. I’m not up for talking about in this public forum, please don’t ask. If you really are interested, email me (as specified on my About page) for the password to the previous post.
Protected: A learning experience
Enter your password to view comments. Yes, No, Maybe!
By Rebecca, February 17, 2011 3:01 pm
From Becca’s SexBlog (no, not me Becca. A different Becca.) comes the Yes, No, Maybe chart, about sexual activities you would, wouldn’t, and might be interested in. The idea is for people (partners, in particular) to think about and discuss their boundaries. It’s an interesting list, ranging from the mundane (French kissing, food play) to the more unusual (toe sucking – apparently called “shrimping” – sex parties, vomit play, and more).
I have to say, there wren’t that many I would flat out refuse to do (and vomit play probably tops that list). It shouldn’t come as a big shocker to any regulars on this blog that I like sex, and am pretty open to experimentation. And, as a bonus, I got to learn the most amazing word ever, valprehend.
Schrodingers Rapist
By Rebecca, January 14, 2011 10:14 pm
Way back in December, when a post of mine on consent was linked to by a mens rights site, I linked to a post called Schrodinger’s Rapist. Very briefly:
When you approach me in public, you are Schrödinger’s Rapist. You may or may not be a man who would commit rape. I won’t know for sure unless you start sexually assaulting me. I can’t see inside your head, and I don’t know your intentions. If you expect me to trust you—to accept you at face value as a nice sort of guy—you are not only failing to respect my reasonable caution, you are being cavalier about my personal safety.
And a response on the mens rights site:
I want you to do me a favor and go re-read that link you posted, but when you read it, I’d like you to imagine it’s a police officer explaining to a black man why they get hassled a lot, or that it’s a TSA agent explaining to a Muslim why they get pulled out of line and searched a lot.
Imagine that instead of the title of the article being “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” it was “Schrödinger’s Felon: or a black male’s guide to walking down the street without being questioned by the police” or instead was “Schrödinger’s Terrorist: or a Muslim’s guide to going through airport security without getting strip searched”. Would those be articles you’d be proud to circulate?
Is there something morally OK with gender profiling that is not OK with racial profiling?
Since then I’ve been thinking about just that: is gender profiling of men fundamentally different than racial or religious profiling?
Review: Amante Remoted-Controlled Vibrator
By Rebecca, December 22, 2010 9:15 pm
Mention a remote controlled vibrator to anyone my age, and they immediately think of the scene from The Ugly Truth where Katherine Heigl is wearing vibrating panties at a dinner meeting and accidentally allows a random child access to the remote:
Alas, my experience with the Amante Remote Control Egg wasn’t quite so exciting, but still provided good fun. Read on for the full review!
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Consent to be touched
By Rebecca, December 19, 2010 3:10 pm
EDIT: Welcome to all the lovely folks from reddit.com’s MensRights section, from which this post was linked to with the desctription “A example of how consent laws will turn everyone into rapists. Seriously, how long until a feminist claims rape because a guy touched her on the shoulder to tell her she dropped something?“ I’ve responded to some of the comments in a new post, Consent Redux.
Last night, the friend I’m visiting hosted a Christmas party. It was lots of fun: tons to eat, delicious deserts, pretty decorations, huge number of drinks, and good people, some who I knew and some who I was meeting for the first time. But around 12:30AM, as the party was starting to wind down, I came upstairs to hear “I said don’t touch my back!” screamed as a girl rushed past me and to the basement, followed quickly by the host.
Walking into the living room, I saw a guy, J, standing there sort of confused, asking, “What the hell was her problem?”
I couldn’t help myself, and snapped, “Well, did she say not to touch her?”
“I only touched her once,” came his obviously frustrated reply.
This made me pause, because I didn’t want to unfairly assume that he’d been a dick, if she actually had overreacted. Nonetheless, I asked, “Yeah, and when she said ‘Don’t’ did you apologize or act like a jerk?”
“She didn’t need to be such a bitch about it!”
Unintentional Derailment and Imposing Identity
By Rebecca, December 14, 2010 12:13 pm
EDIT 12/18/2010: Jamie, the author of the link provided in the below-quoted comment, has responded in the comments, clarifying a few things. It looks like I misunderstood her position, and I apologize for misrepresenting what she said. Everything else I said, about derailing a conversation, still holds true; I think the original comment that prompted this post was off topic.
Chapter I: In Which A Question Is Asked
One of the comments on This chick with a dick is exhausted caught my attention, to the point where I removed the comment from the thread (something I rarely do). However, I do want to respond to the comment, and explain why I removed it from the original post. Here’s the comment in question:
DISCLAIMER: This is an honest question, NOT a ‘snarky’ remark. There is absolutely no disrespect intended.
I am a relative new comer to “T-Land” and/or the world of the transgender. I have some opinions but these are based from living in the main stream as a “privileged white woman”.
Nevertheless, I do understand your discomfort at the way you feel you were “dissed” by your “friends”. So…This is my question? ”Does the incident described in the following link describe you? Does it describe a “gender queer”? Does it describe a “gay/homosexual transgender”?
http://silverhalidedreams.blogspot.com/2010/12/deep-waters.html
Thank you in advance for considering and thoughtfully answering these questions.
I wanted to open up the discussion to a larger audience, which is why I’m responding in this public fashion. I don’t want this response to become an attack, and will remove any comments that seem tilted that way. Skip down to Chapter IV if you actually want to get to my response…
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