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By Rebecca, January 24, 2010 4:45 am

As of this weekend, I’m on the dating market for the first time in almost four years.*

That’s terrifying.

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By Rebecca, December 26, 2009 2:46 am

Something I didn’t touch on in my recent post, Pregnancy and PMS, was the idea of me ever having children. I haven’t talked about this much on the blog, other than the ton of fun I had while going off hormones to deposit sperm summer before last. And, to be honest, I haven’t thought about it a whole lot since.

At this party the other night, when I was talking with these other women about pregnancy and giving birth, it reminded me that I’ll never be pregnant. That I’ll never give birth.

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By Rebecca, December 16, 2009 2:16 pm

An interesting article at the NYT:

Then he led off the discussion of the homework assignment. It consisted of an article from the national Jewish newspaper, The Forward, about a married couple who participate avidly in both synagogue and swinging. “Aren’t these people just being honest?” Rabbi Lookstein asked. Five or six hands immediately shot up.

So began another day in Jewish Sexual Ethics, the course better known around Ramaz, even to its teacher, as “Sex With the Rabbi.” For the last 23 years, since Rabbi Lookstein devised the class, he has taught it to every 10th grader to pass through Ramaz, a Modern Orthodox institution combining rigorous secular and religious curriculums.

I don’t have anything to add, just thought it was an interesting article. And nice to see an article on a more conservative Jewish institution acknowledging that sex exists and shouldn’t be taboo.

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By Rebecca, October 26, 2009 12:54 am

…but anyone at all interested (or even if you’re not interested!) should check out Anal Sex Myths, pt 1 at Sex Etc… From the post:

Myth: Butt sex is painful- Butt sex can be painful, if you’re not careful and communicating closely with your partner. In short NO, BUTT SEX SHOULD NOT HURT. EVER. Everyone got that? If it hurts, it means something is wrong and you should stop, figure out what’s wrong, and keep going only if both partners are still up for it and ready. This is why you should never use a numbing agent. You could not realize you’re hurting until you’ve done serious damage.

Go read the rest!

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By Rebecca, October 18, 2009 3:38 pm

I was having a conversation with a friend last night about sex, and gender identity versus physical body. It got me thinking about how easy it is to get into circular reasoning, especially when it comes to something so emotional and sensitive as all that. The circular reasoning we were talking about goes like this:

1. I like sex, and being sexual
2. I identify as a woman
3. I was assigned “boy” at birth, and still have ‘boy bits’
4. Women can’t have ‘boy bits’
5. But I like sex…

(Rinse and repeat…)

Basically, is it OK to enjoy sex, even if your body isn’t what you really want it to be? Or, you have issues using your body in the socially/culturally expected way?

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