Comments on: Pregnancy and PMS http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/12/23/pregnancy-and-pms/ One 20-something trans woman's free associations on gender, politics, geekery, and more Mon, 21 May 2012 20:05:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Wednesday Link Love « The Feminist Texican http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/12/23/pregnancy-and-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-5105 Wednesday Link Love « The Feminist Texican Wed, 30 Dec 2009 12:31:38 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=1368#comment-5105 [...] Thang Blog: Pregnancy and PMS I’ve joked before that one gauge of how my girl friends perceive my gender is how [...] [...] Thang Blog: Pregnancy and PMS I’ve joked before that one gauge of how my girl friends perceive my gender is how [...]

]]> By: Jonah http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/12/23/pregnancy-and-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-4995 Jonah Thu, 24 Dec 2009 05:35:17 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=1368#comment-4995 I think for me, how women in my life have stopped talking about their periods and labors, etc around me has been one of the few things I miss from when I was seen as more feminine. That is, I never had a basis to understand the whole PMS deal (although I have a friend who has promised to explain it to me soon) but I have watched a few births and the topic fascinates me... but now when I bring the topic up I get weird looks and the conversation stops, whereas before people told me ALL about their kids' births. I think for me, how women in my life have stopped talking about their periods and labors, etc around me has been one of the few things I miss from when I was seen as more feminine. That is, I never had a basis to understand the whole PMS deal (although I have a friend who has promised to explain it to me soon) but I have watched a few births and the topic fascinates me… but now when I bring the topic up I get weird looks and the conversation stops, whereas before people told me ALL about their kids’ births.

]]> By: Rebecca http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/12/23/pregnancy-and-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-4989 Rebecca Wed, 23 Dec 2009 23:02:17 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=1368#comment-4989 Your hubby is really adorable with your son, though, so it's OK. ;) Your hubby is really adorable with your son, though, so it’s OK. ;)

]]> By: M http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/12/23/pregnancy-and-pms/comment-page-1/#comment-4983 M Wed, 23 Dec 2009 21:02:23 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=1368#comment-4983 I'm glad that on some level our vagina conversation from the other day was a part of this post. In reference to the part about the male as caregiver/female as breadwinner that does totally bother me. I have a female co-worker who works and her husband stays home with the 2 kids. He belongs to a "moms club" and has for years. While I think its great that they "allow" him in the club it bothers me that they still refer to it as a moms club and thus he's still perceived as an exception. Unless, suddenly the terms mother and father are no longer conveying gender, which I don't think is the case. Similarly, I always get strange looks when I say that I'm going out of town and my husband is staying home with our son, as if it was inconceivable that a woman could be a part from her child or that a man could handle the responsibility. I’m glad that on some level our vagina conversation from the other day was a part of this post.

In reference to the part about the male as caregiver/female as breadwinner that does totally bother me. I have a female co-worker who works and her husband stays home with the 2 kids. He belongs to a “moms club” and has for years. While I think its great that they “allow” him in the club it bothers me that they still refer to it as a moms club and thus he’s still perceived as an exception. Unless, suddenly the terms mother and father are no longer conveying gender, which I don’t think is the case.

Similarly, I always get strange looks when I say that I’m going out of town and my husband is staying home with our son, as if it was inconceivable that a woman could be a part from her child or that a man could handle the responsibility.

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