I couldn’t agree more – we all know what’s in our head, and in our heart, better than anyone else. So there.

But to quote an animated George Harrison; “It’s all in the mind you know.”
“I think therefore I am.”

It all comes down to who we are on the inside, and that’s that (cop out on the end since I could find a way to end that statement).

I honestly don’t understand why some people can’t grasp sex vs. gender, either. Many plants have sexes, yet they don’t have genders. Some cultures have three or five genders, but they have exactly the same number of sexes that we do. All you have to do is realize that our society and species is not the entirety of existence, and you can easily find bucket-loads of examples that illustrate the difference.

Say you do transition successfully. HRT, facial feminization, vaginoplasty from some world class doctor in Thailand. Lazer stuff for the hair, face, legs, etc. Doctors examine you and you present as female.

What then? Have you arrived? Do you continue to feel as though you “don’t fit”, which is presumably why you began this journey in the first place?

That’s my argument. Please name me some very successful transgendered individuals, people who are widely known and recognized as successful leaders and teachers and individuals, because I don’t know any. It seems that all the resources used by individuals to change their physical bodies and processes to “change gender” could be spent better. All that money, all that anguish, all the fighting against the system, and what do you gain? Will you really gain the peace you seek? Or are you stuck in a continuous loop of unfulfillment because instead of dealing with the hand you were dealt, you decided to discard that hand? Instead of learning the true meaning of “happiness” and finding it in what you have, you go off on the wild goose chase, the search for the holy grail, the elusive “peace” that is sure to come when you look completely like a woman. Right?

I’m not saying that your transition isn’t valid, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t do it, I’m not saying you’re wrong or that you will never be a real woman.

What I am saying is this: What is your transition going to change? What is it going to resolve for you that was so unresolved that you felt you had to take this path? How is this path going to help YOU? It’s going to greatly benefit trans-surgeons and doctors and everyone you’re going to pay for your procedures, but what about you? Does this path really bring happiness?

That’s all I’d like to know. That’s the only part that really worries me– I’ve read and heard horror stories of how people do get to the other side and feel just as lost as they did before, which leads me to wonder if the transition is just another symptom, not necessarily a solution.

Sorry for the super long comment and I want to apologize if anything I’ve said here offends you– it’s not my intention, and I’d appreciate your consideration.