http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/07/07/misogyny-and-the-male-gaze/ One 20-something trans woman's free associations on gender, politics, geekery, and more Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:48:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/07/07/misogyny-and-the-male-gaze/comment-page-1/#comment-3603 The Thang Blog » Tis better to give than to receive Fri, 06 Nov 2009 17:03:25 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=748#comment-3603 [...] then I remembered this post from July. And I realized that I’d been thinking about the situation from the perspective of [...] [...] then I remembered this post from July. And I realized that I’d been thinking about the situation from the perspective of [...]

]]> http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/07/07/misogyny-and-the-male-gaze/comment-page-1/#comment-1366 The Thang Blog » On the Edge of Trolling, pt 5 Mon, 27 Jul 2009 05:48:30 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=748#comment-1366 [...] another comment to Misogyny and the Male Gaze, which is apparently where baby trolls go to learn how to fly: No amount of blogging, self denial, [...] [...] another comment to Misogyny and the Male Gaze, which is apparently where baby trolls go to learn how to fly: No amount of blogging, self denial, [...]

]]> http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/07/07/misogyny-and-the-male-gaze/comment-page-1/#comment-1302 The Thang Blog » On the Edge of Trolling, pt 4 Tue, 21 Jul 2009 15:23:52 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=748#comment-1302 [...] way and isn’t intending to be inflammatory. This latest comment was posted to in reference to Misogyny and the Male Gaze: What I love about trans is this:  They were sensitive and easily hurt to begin with, but now they [...] [...] way and isn’t intending to be inflammatory. This latest comment was posted to in reference to Misogyny and the Male Gaze: What I love about trans is this:  They were sensitive and easily hurt to begin with, but now they [...]

]]> http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/07/07/misogyny-and-the-male-gaze/comment-page-1/#comment-1187 Rebecca Wed, 08 Jul 2009 21:01:46 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=748#comment-1187 Amazing! That's really smart, and I particularly like the idea to turn around "I was only joking!" Amazing! That’s really smart, and I particularly like the idea to turn around “I was only joking!”

]]> http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/07/07/misogyny-and-the-male-gaze/comment-page-1/#comment-1179 Rachel_in_WY Wed, 08 Jul 2009 16:00:12 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=748#comment-1179 You can always try to mitigate the "being that girl" or "being the buzzkill" feature of it by replying in a sarcastic/witty/semi-joking manner and then quickly moving on. I often revert to the "yeah, women/gays/Jews/blacks/trans people/disabled people/fat people/whatever are so dumb/worthless/whatever!" in a super sarcastic tone, which points out that this was in fact the point of their comment or joke and also makes everyone else see it, but not in a pick-a-fight kind of way. And then there's the "rape is so funny!" response to rape jokes. That makes everyone squirm, but turns the collective disapproval away from you and toward the person who made the joke. In this case you could say "yeah, tits are GREAT! It's too bad they only come attached to actual humans" or something along those lines. The other advantage of this kind of response is that you can't be accused of being a humorless feminist because you can now use their disingenuous response: "I was only joking!" You can always try to mitigate the “being that girl” or “being the buzzkill” feature of it by replying in a sarcastic/witty/semi-joking manner and then quickly moving on. I often revert to the “yeah, women/gays/Jews/blacks/trans people/disabled people/fat people/whatever are so dumb/worthless/whatever!” in a super sarcastic tone, which points out that this was in fact the point of their comment or joke and also makes everyone else see it, but not in a pick-a-fight kind of way. And then there’s the “rape is so funny!” response to rape jokes. That makes everyone squirm, but turns the collective disapproval away from you and toward the person who made the joke. In this case you could say “yeah, tits are GREAT! It’s too bad they only come attached to actual humans” or something along those lines. The other advantage of this kind of response is that you can’t be accused of being a humorless feminist because you can now use their disingenuous response: “I was only joking!”

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