Comments on: The (legal) name game http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/03/11/the-legal-name-game/ One 20-something trans woman's free associations on gender, politics, geekery, and more Mon, 21 May 2012 20:05:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: The Thang Blog » Blog Archive » Privilege http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/03/11/the-legal-name-game/comment-page-1/#comment-406 The Thang Blog » Blog Archive » Privilege Sat, 04 Apr 2009 23:17:46 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=465#comment-406 [...] ID back, and let me in. I was able to take this as a compliment (unlike the last time I mentioned a similar situation) but it’s fed my thoughts on privilege, and how little thought I gave to my ID being accepted [...] [...] ID back, and let me in. I was able to take this as a compliment (unlike the last time I mentioned a similar situation) but it’s fed my thoughts on privilege, and how little thought I gave to my ID being accepted [...]

]]> By: trillian http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/03/11/the-legal-name-game/comment-page-1/#comment-317 trillian Thu, 12 Mar 2009 16:16:51 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=465#comment-317 I think some of it goes back to something my therapist said the other day, about being "post transition." I need to expand this into a larger post at some point, but basically - in my mind - I'm still very much "transitioning." The idea of having transitioned, of being "post transition," is scary because it sort of means what I'm doing is 'for real' (whatever that means) rather than still practice. I don't know - I have this idea that being in the process of transitioning means that I'm allowed to try things out and have lower stakes for myself. Whereas being "post transition" means whatever I'm doing is 'real.' I realize that's kind of vague, and it's kind of vague in my mind, which is why I need to expand upon it in a later post... But thinking out loud, that's where I go with why I was uncomfortable. -R I think some of it goes back to something my therapist said the other day, about being “post transition.” I need to expand this into a larger post at some point, but basically – in my mind – I’m still very much “transitioning.” The idea of having transitioned, of being “post transition,” is scary because it sort of means what I’m doing is ‘for real’ (whatever that means) rather than still practice.

I don’t know – I have this idea that being in the process of transitioning means that I’m allowed to try things out and have lower stakes for myself. Whereas being “post transition” means whatever I’m doing is ‘real.’ I realize that’s kind of vague, and it’s kind of vague in my mind, which is why I need to expand upon it in a later post… But thinking out loud, that’s where I go with why I was uncomfortable.

-R

]]> By: M http://fridaythang.com/blog/2009/03/11/the-legal-name-game/comment-page-1/#comment-316 M Thu, 12 Mar 2009 13:33:07 +0000 http://fridaythang.com/blog/?p=465#comment-316 I guess I'm sort of confused by your reaction. I would have assumed that it would have made you happy that you "passed" as in previous posts this seems like a general concern. I also don't think there's anything wrong with the woman being confused. I don't think that meant she had ill intentions or thought badly of you, but simply its confusing to look at a woman and see an id that says Mike which is clearly a male name. I would have been just as confused in that situation. She also clearly didn't make a big deal of it, but just let it go. I guess I too, hadn't realized thinking of legal name changes would happen so soon, but it does make sense. Perhaps, this just means that you need to start thinking of this process sooner than later. Isn't that fundamentally a good thing? That you've been accepted by the public as B and that J now seems odd in people's minds? I guess I’m sort of confused by your reaction. I would have assumed that it would have made you happy that you “passed” as in previous posts this seems like a general concern.

I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with the woman being confused. I don’t think that meant she had ill intentions or thought badly of you, but simply its confusing to look at a woman and see an id that says Mike which is clearly a male name. I would have been just as confused in that situation. She also clearly didn’t make a big deal of it, but just let it go.

I guess I too, hadn’t realized thinking of legal name changes would happen so soon, but it does make sense. Perhaps, this just means that you need to start thinking of this process sooner than later. Isn’t that fundamentally a good thing? That you’ve been accepted by the public as B and that J now seems odd in people’s minds?

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